Wednesday, 13 February 2013

Baby, I'm Feeling No Stress. I'm Too Fly to be Depressed.

Yep, it's Ne-Yo's song lyric right there in the title from the song "Go On Girl." 

There's nothing new and peculiar about celebrating Valentine's Day single. In fact, there are 100 million single adults (I meant those who are not in any kind of romantic relationships) in the United States alone. I don't have a concrete Stats on the number of singles in the Philippines, but I could say that there's a rising number of them. This is good news. I'm not alone. 

Let me quote a part of Madrilena de la Cerna's article published in Cebu Daily News which may interest you, especially if you're riding solo this February 14. 

"To be single in the Philippines, especially for the females, is to bear the endless name-calling: wa mahalin (as if she’s for sale), nabiyaan sa train (as if marriage is a trip), lagas (as if she’s an agricultural product), dagang guwang (said with a tone especially if a male is the one describing), old maid (said with a smirk)."  Read more

This says nothing but the truth about singles in the Philippines, particularly female singles. I think there's too much stereotyping going on here. I understand that I have the tendency to become fatalistic but I believe that people always end up on what they deserve, on what God intends to happen. doesn't mean they're not happy. Happiness is such a broad, immaterial idea for you to cage it to romance. Some remain single by chance, while some, by choice. Either way, people will eventually find what's missing in their lives and that's not particularly pertaining to romantic relationships. 

This Valentine's Day, singles (that includes me) also have the right to celebrate. The date is going to be on a Thursday, so if you don't want to feel all sleepy at work the next day, you can have an intimate party time with your family at home! 

Here's what you should do:
  • Grab a box of pizza (or any favorite pasabulong) for the whole family to share
  • Decide on a theme color (Red is great, but too common. Try Pink or Orange for a change!)
  • Hit on your playlist while having chit chat and snack time. 
Speaking of playlist, here are my suggestions to perk up the break-up and find happiness in single-hood:

1. What Doesn't Kill You - Kelly Clarkson
2. Young, Wild, and Free -Wiz Khalifa and friends 
3. Lullaby for Myself - Barbara Streisand
4. I Don't Need a Man - Pussycat Dolls (ultimate feminist song!)
5. I Will Survive - Gloria Gaynor
6. Ugly Girl - Fleming and John
7. Single Ladies - Beyonce
8. Since U Been Gone - Kelly Clarkson
9. I'm Not Missing You - Stacie Orico
10. Single - Natasha Beddingfield

Don't be afraid if others don't find you "marketable," you're not a commodity. Don't worry if the last trip is over, your true love may have preferred to travel on foot. You're a million times better than a dead leaf and there's certainly nothing wrong with being an old maid especially if you prepared well enough to enjoy retirement.

For those who thought that they have found the love of their lives, don't fret. It's not the end of the world. Life doesn't stop just because things didn't work out for the both of you. I'm not a fortuneteller or anything similar to that but I believe that people are born for other people. Someday, you'll find that One person who will sweep you off your feet and will make you believe in 'til death do us part. 

Hope not for a date this Valentine's, but a date who can make your ordinary days extraordinary. 


  1. such a good writer ... that's my niece! Eventually I must praise her that way, its more than being " marketable" ...

  2. hahaha super like! Can't wait for that box of pizza you'll take home for the family to share :-D